Imagine men are from Mars and women are from Venus. One day long ago the Martians looking trough their telescopes discovered the Venusians. Just glimpsing the Venusians awakened feelings they had never known. They fell in love and quickly invented space travel and flew to Venus. The Venusians welcomed the Martians with open arms. They had intuitively known that this day would come. Their hearts opened wide to a love they had never felt before.
The love between the Venusians and Martians was magical. They delighted in being together, doing things together and sharing together. Though from different worlds, they revealed in their differences. They spent months learning about each other, exploring and appreciating their different needs, preferences and behaviour patterns.
For years they lived together in love and harmony, they decided to fly to Earth. In the beginning was wonderful and beautiful but the effects of Earth’s atmosphere took hold. One morning everyone woke up with peculiar kind of amnesia. Both Martians and Venusians forgot that they were from different planets and were supposed to be different. In one morning everything they had learned about their differences was erased from their memory. And since that day men and women have been in conflict…
Without awareness that we are supposed to be different, men and women are at odd with each other. We usually become angry or frustrated with the opposite sex because we have forgotten this important truth. We expect the opposite sex to be more like ourselves. We desire them to “want what we want” and “feel the way we feel”.
Men mistakenly expect women to think, communicate and react the way men do, and women mistakenly expect men to feel, communicate and respond the way women do. As a result, the relationships are filled with unnecessary friction and conflict.
Listening is an attitude of the heart, a genuine desire to be with another which both attracts and heals.
--J. Isham
--J. Isham
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