Goodbye 2008, Hello 2009

Three more days to go for the new year. Any wishes and goals to achieved in 2009? I'm sure you have but if you don't have any, well this could be the year for you to discover yourself. I already had my to do list and blocked my whole year calendar. Wow, this sounds a bit unrealistic huh ( some of you who know me might say this...)?Yeah, I marked my calendar for the 12 months with specific dates. According to Chinese calendar this is the year of OX. Yes, it's my year and i'm gonna shine!

In 2008, I had my to do list as well but I think I didn't worked hard enough and determined to complete it. So this coming year not going to miss any opportunities and fun. Well, I've asked few people what are their wishes and goals for next year. Not surprised that most of them hoping to have a better economic especially for those newly wed and have new born. But, I don't think the economic affect them much and definitely not their top wishes as many of them actually bought new car, new house, travel, had expensive lunch and dinner, etc. Well, if you ask me what's my wishes in 2009, not really much hoping on the better economic but more to my personal development.

My wishes, goals & 'to-do list' -(TDL) in 2009:

1. Wishing there are no more natural disasters.
   
2. Wish to have healthier and fit body( yeah including losing fats) - TDL: complete the Elle 40mins cardio workout.
3. Constantly endeavour to prepare the new life in the very near future -TDL: pass exam papers, a step closer with HKJ', HJK, 'HLG' ,Kermit the frog.
   
4. Enjoy every moments and have fun - TDL: eliminate all negative thoughts, negative attitudes, negative habits, negative people too! " stay COOL, stay FUN, stay EASY.

My wishes and goals are simple yet (...).

Here, I'm wishing every one a very Happy New year !

How to tell if you are falling in love?

1. You miss him/her so badly until you feel so moody and hopeless.
2. You can't stop thinking about him/her and may lose focus as he/she is always on your mind.
3. You day dream being with him/her in every way.
4. You can smile all day long just thinking bout him/her.
5. You can talk for hours with him/her and still feel can't get enough.
6. You still miss him/her even after you get off the phone.
7. You feel happy and can be yourself when you're with him/her even when you're in PMS.
8. You like to share with him/her almost everything including your dreams, your secret, your time.
9. You thought of him/her every morning when you wake up.
10. Your heart beats fast when he/she call you on phone.
11. You lose track of time when you're with them.
12. You do things that you never do just for him/her.
13. You listen to love songs more often.
14. You imagine sharing a life with him/her. You even think about future, marriage, kids , building life with him/her.
15. You have sweet dream about him/her.
16. You get butterflies when he/she sweet talk to you.
17. Your change your bad habit for him/her.
18. You make yourself look better.
    
19. You look at his/her photos whenever you miss him/her. You even set his/her photos as your hp/ computer wallpaper.
20. You're happy when you see him/her happy, you're sad too when you feel them sad.
    

Women are like waves

A woman is like a wave. When she feels loved her self esteem rises and falls in a wave motion. When she is feeling really good, she will reach peak but then suddenly her mood may change and her wave crashes down. Don't worry, this crash is temporary. After she reaches bottom suddenly her mood will shift and she will again feel good about herself, automatically her wave begins to rise back up.

When a woman;s wave rises she feels she has an abundance of love to give, but when it falls she feels her inner emptiness and needs to be filled up with love. If she has suppressed feelings or denied herself in order to be more loving on the upswing of her wave , then on the downswing she begins to experience these negative feelings and unfulfilled needs. During this down time she especially needs to talk about problems and be heard and understood.

Going down is like going down to a dark well for her. When a woman goes into her 'well' she is consciously sinking into her unconcious self, into darkness and diffused feeling. She may suddenly experience a host of unexplained emotions and vague feelings. She may feel hopeless, thinking she is all alone or unsupported. But soon after she reaches the bottom, if she feel loved and supported, she will automatically rise up and again radiate love in her relationship.

A woman's ability to give and receive love in her relationships is generally a reflection of how she is feeling about herself. When she is not feeling as good about herself, she is unable to be as accepting and appreciative of her partner. At her down time, she tends to be overwelmed or more emotionally reactive. When her wave hits bottom she is more vulnerable and needs at these times, otherwise he make unreasonable demand.

Killing responds from men
1) "How many times do we need to go through this?"
2)" I've heard all this before."
3) "I thought we had established that."
4) "When are you going to get it off?"
5) "I dont want to deal with this anymore."
6) "This is crazy! We are having the same argument."
7) "Why do you have so many problems?"

Yes, most of the men wondering why women like to to have recurring conversations and arguments. This could be because the issues are unresolved. When woman goes into her well her deepest issues tend to surface. These issues may have to do with the relationship but usually they are heavily charged from her past relationships and childhood. Whatever remains to be healed or resolved from her past inevitably will come up.

Warning signs that she may going into her well or when she needs his love the most.
She feels She may say
Overwhelmed - " There i so much to do"
Insecure - " I need more."
Resentful - " I do everything."
Worried - " But what about..."
Confused - " I dont understand why..."
Exhausted - " I cant do anything more."
Hopeless - " I don't know what to do."
Passive - ' I don't care, do what you want."
Demanding - " You should..."
Mistrustful - " What do you mean by that?"
Withholding - " No, I don't want to..."
Controlling - " Well, did you..?
Disapproving - " how could you forget...?"

Men are from Mars, Women are from venus

Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in. They forgot they were from different planets.

Imagine men are from Mars and women are from Venus. One day long ago the Martians looking trough their telescopes discovered the Venusians. Just glimpsing the Venusians awakened feelings they had never known. They fell in love and quickly invented space travel and flew to Venus. The Venusians welcomed the Martians with open arms. They had intuitively known that this day would come. Their hearts opened wide to a love they had never felt before.

The love between the Venusians and Martians was magical. They delighted in being together, doing things together and sharing together. Though from different worlds, they revealed in their differences. They spent months learning about each other, exploring and appreciating their different needs, preferences and behaviour patterns.

For years they lived together in love and harmony, they decided to fly to Earth. In the beginning was wonderful and beautiful but the effects of Earth’s atmosphere took hold. One morning everyone woke up with peculiar kind of amnesia. Both Martians and Venusians forgot that they were from different planets and were supposed to be different. In one morning everything they had learned about their differences was erased from their memory. And since that day men and women have been in conflict…

Without awareness that we are supposed to be different, men and women are at odd with each other. We usually become angry or frustrated with the opposite sex because we have forgotten this important truth. We expect the opposite sex to be more like ourselves. We desire them to “want what we want” and “feel the way we feel”.

Men mistakenly expect women to think, communicate and react the way men do, and women mistakenly expect men to feel, communicate and respond the way women do. As a result, the relationships are filled with unnecessary friction and conflict.When you remember that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, everything can be explained!

Listening is an attitude of the heart, a genuine desire to be with another which both attracts and heals.
--J. Isham

Ahimsa

What is Ashima?

Ashima or non-violence has been venerated in Eastern philosophies and thinking through religious like Buddhism and Jainism. It has, in the last century , become a celebrated philosophy worldwide trough the heroic efforts of a man called Gandhi who galvanized the imagination of people worldwide with his singleminded adherence to the principle of non-violence as a principle tool in his struggle to secure India's freedom from British rule.

Applied in thoughts
Ashima can applied to our thoughts, words and deeds, particularly in our dealings with ourselves and the people in our lives. It all begins with our thoughts. If we take time to observe them, we will realize that some of the causes of violent thoughts (sometimes followed by violent action) are anger, greed and impatience. If we are cursing other people all time, thinking only ill of others, or constantly belittling ourselves, our minds will end up full of himsa or violence.
* So, it is only natural that words we speak and the actions that follow are of a similar predisposition.

Applied in attitude
It can also be applied in our attitudes towards our bodies, and in our yoga practice. This can be achieved by being less critical of ourselves and our ability to grasp the finer points of alignment and concept, and being more gentle with our bodies. However, we need to keep in mind our strengths and limitations, and work with them accordingly.

How to apply in our everyday life?
By having a clear understanding of our goals and where we stand, we will then be able to take the necessary steps to achieve them in a calm and focused manner.
By being:
* gentler and more patient with ourselves;
* learning to rein in our desires and work calmly towards our goals;
* harboring less attachment to expectations of others;
* extending kindness and compassion to all those who come our way,
we will be practicing ahsima as well!

Quotes

When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.
Helen Keller

The fact is, that to do anything in the world worth doing, we must not stand back shivering and thinking of the cold and danger, but jump in and scramble through as well as we can.
Robert Cushing

Wonderful Life

Wonderful Moments

1) Stroll along the beautiful and peaceful beach with the special someone

2) Having a steamboat dinner during rainy day

3) Laugh till the eyes full with tears and feel the sore in the abdomen

4) Sit silently reading the favourite book

5) Had enough sleep and not wake up with the sound of alarm clock

6) Shop and pay with free shopping vouchers

7) Having a really nice long conversation

8) Sing and dance with friends

9) Giving gentle touch to the dog while it licking on your face

10) Having special someone cook for you

11) Chat and joke with friends and family while having barbeque

12) Screaming out loud from the terrifying roller coaster

Many more to go....