Goodbye 2008, Hello 2009

Three more days to go for the new year. Any wishes and goals to achieved in 2009? I'm sure you have but if you don't have any, well this could be the year for you to discover yourself. I already had my to do list and blocked my whole year calendar. Wow, this sounds a bit unrealistic huh ( some of you who know me might say this...)?Yeah, I marked my calendar for the 12 months with specific dates. According to Chinese calendar this is the year of OX. Yes, it's my year and i'm gonna shine!

In 2008, I had my to do list as well but I think I didn't worked hard enough and determined to complete it. So this coming year not going to miss any opportunities and fun. Well, I've asked few people what are their wishes and goals for next year. Not surprised that most of them hoping to have a better economic especially for those newly wed and have new born. But, I don't think the economic affect them much and definitely not their top wishes as many of them actually bought new car, new house, travel, had expensive lunch and dinner, etc. Well, if you ask me what's my wishes in 2009, not really much hoping on the better economic but more to my personal development.

My wishes, goals & 'to-do list' -(TDL) in 2009:

1. Wishing there are no more natural disasters.
   
2. Wish to have healthier and fit body( yeah including losing fats) - TDL: complete the Elle 40mins cardio workout.
3. Constantly endeavour to prepare the new life in the very near future -TDL: pass exam papers, a step closer with HKJ', HJK, 'HLG' ,Kermit the frog.
   
4. Enjoy every moments and have fun - TDL: eliminate all negative thoughts, negative attitudes, negative habits, negative people too! " stay COOL, stay FUN, stay EASY.

My wishes and goals are simple yet (...).

Here, I'm wishing every one a very Happy New year !

How to tell if you are falling in love?

1. You miss him/her so badly until you feel so moody and hopeless.
2. You can't stop thinking about him/her and may lose focus as he/she is always on your mind.
3. You day dream being with him/her in every way.
4. You can smile all day long just thinking bout him/her.
5. You can talk for hours with him/her and still feel can't get enough.
6. You still miss him/her even after you get off the phone.
7. You feel happy and can be yourself when you're with him/her even when you're in PMS.
8. You like to share with him/her almost everything including your dreams, your secret, your time.
9. You thought of him/her every morning when you wake up.
10. Your heart beats fast when he/she call you on phone.
11. You lose track of time when you're with them.
12. You do things that you never do just for him/her.
13. You listen to love songs more often.
14. You imagine sharing a life with him/her. You even think about future, marriage, kids , building life with him/her.
15. You have sweet dream about him/her.
16. You get butterflies when he/she sweet talk to you.
17. Your change your bad habit for him/her.
18. You make yourself look better.
    
19. You look at his/her photos whenever you miss him/her. You even set his/her photos as your hp/ computer wallpaper.
20. You're happy when you see him/her happy, you're sad too when you feel them sad.
    

Women are like waves

A woman is like a wave. When she feels loved her self esteem rises and falls in a wave motion. When she is feeling really good, she will reach peak but then suddenly her mood may change and her wave crashes down. Don't worry, this crash is temporary. After she reaches bottom suddenly her mood will shift and she will again feel good about herself, automatically her wave begins to rise back up.

When a woman;s wave rises she feels she has an abundance of love to give, but when it falls she feels her inner emptiness and needs to be filled up with love. If she has suppressed feelings or denied herself in order to be more loving on the upswing of her wave , then on the downswing she begins to experience these negative feelings and unfulfilled needs. During this down time she especially needs to talk about problems and be heard and understood.

Going down is like going down to a dark well for her. When a woman goes into her 'well' she is consciously sinking into her unconcious self, into darkness and diffused feeling. She may suddenly experience a host of unexplained emotions and vague feelings. She may feel hopeless, thinking she is all alone or unsupported. But soon after she reaches the bottom, if she feel loved and supported, she will automatically rise up and again radiate love in her relationship.

A woman's ability to give and receive love in her relationships is generally a reflection of how she is feeling about herself. When she is not feeling as good about herself, she is unable to be as accepting and appreciative of her partner. At her down time, she tends to be overwelmed or more emotionally reactive. When her wave hits bottom she is more vulnerable and needs at these times, otherwise he make unreasonable demand.

Killing responds from men
1) "How many times do we need to go through this?"
2)" I've heard all this before."
3) "I thought we had established that."
4) "When are you going to get it off?"
5) "I dont want to deal with this anymore."
6) "This is crazy! We are having the same argument."
7) "Why do you have so many problems?"

Yes, most of the men wondering why women like to to have recurring conversations and arguments. This could be because the issues are unresolved. When woman goes into her well her deepest issues tend to surface. These issues may have to do with the relationship but usually they are heavily charged from her past relationships and childhood. Whatever remains to be healed or resolved from her past inevitably will come up.

Warning signs that she may going into her well or when she needs his love the most.
She feels She may say
Overwhelmed - " There i so much to do"
Insecure - " I need more."
Resentful - " I do everything."
Worried - " But what about..."
Confused - " I dont understand why..."
Exhausted - " I cant do anything more."
Hopeless - " I don't know what to do."
Passive - ' I don't care, do what you want."
Demanding - " You should..."
Mistrustful - " What do you mean by that?"
Withholding - " No, I don't want to..."
Controlling - " Well, did you..?
Disapproving - " how could you forget...?"